My almost 2 year old child fell into a lily pad pond right outside our house, I was less than two seconds away he just ran and fell right in, I pulled him out quickly and he coughed and cried so he%26#039;s fine but I am just so angry. I panicked and started yelling at him and even gave his leg a light whap when we got in the door. It scared me so bad, but now I am so angry that I got so upset with him he is after all just a child. How can I make it up to him? How can I react better to circumstances such as this I know better than to take it out on my child thinking that just telling him a minute ago to stay away from it and hoping he will remember it what can I do next time just take him in the house.
My son fell in our lily pad pond, he%26#039;s alright but I am so angry with myself?
Don%26#039;t beat yourself up over it. It%26#039;s probably one of many things that he will do that will scare the bejeezus out of you. You reacted in a way that is very normal for parents, you were upset because he didn%26#039;t listen and it could have caused him harm. It%26#039;s the typical running out in the street thing, we tell em%26#039; not to but they do it and then we freak out and don%26#039;t know if we want to hug them or spank them. I would go out by the lily pond and get down to his level and explain that it%26#039;s okay to look at but that we shouldn%26#039;t go near it because we could get hurt...etc. I%26#039;ve also found that when something like this does happen my child tends to understand the danger once he sees mom go bat **** crazy and tell him over and over again how much it scared me and that he shouldn%26#039;t do it. It usually does the trick. Good luck!!
Reply:Dont%26#039; be too hard on yourself! You were emotional and scared and didn%26#039;t handle things perfectly... so what? Nobody is perfect! Frankly your boy is so young that light whap is not going to affect him too much one way or another.
If it makes you feel better, apologize to him, but honestly, it%26#039;s fine. You%26#039;ll be fine. He%26#039;ll be fine.
I don%26#039;t think you%26#039;ll have this problem in the future, as the scary episode of falling in the pond was a natural consequence of running toward it, and your boy is not likely to repeat his actions! However, if he does, just do your normal negative consequence, such as a time-out.
Reply:If it was your lily pond why on earth wasn%26#039;t it fenced off if you have a child this young ?
He isn%26#039;t going to understand why he was smacked and why you reacted the way you did...telling a 2 year old to stay away isn%26#039;t going to work they want to look and check things out..i know i had two two year old%26#039;s !
Forget about this now and just think before you act as my mum always says to me ..after all he is only two
Reply:Things can happen quick. Don%26#039;t feel guilty for getting angry. Anger is just a cover for fear. You were afraid that if you had not been closer, that you would not have realized he fell in and something bad could have happened to him. I have had
my 2 yo fall right in front me and had to get stitches in his head, so accidents will happen, you just have to be calm, and try not to panic, if something does happen. But having any kind of water near your house is pretty dangerous, maybe have a gate put around it if at all possible, or just be prepared to keep your eyes on your son whenever hes outside, even just for a second....
Reply:drain the pond or put a fence around it.
Reply:Please don%26#039;t beat yourself up over this. I%26#039;m sure between you being upset and him being scared from falling that he probably won%26#039;t go near the pond again. It is okay for you to be upset that he scared you, it should upset you enough that you take action so he remembers not to do it again.
Reply:Dont beat yourself up. You probably over racted a bet yelling at him, but its not going to scar him or anything. When I was about that age we had a little creek it was very small mostly muddy, with a littel water in it. I was outside with my dad and I fell in head first and got stuck! My dad had to run over and pull me out. I dont remeber it, but my dad laughs about it now. Of course it scared the crap out of him untill he figured out I was ok. Just teach him to stay away from it, he will be fine!
Reply:Honey don%26#039;t feel so bad you did nothing wrong the main point is that you where right there as for getting mad and swatting him My personal opinion is this is when your suppose to give him a little swat not when they get in your makeup bag or break a lamp times that he could really hurt himself It will make him remember and hopefully keep him from doing it again. Your a good mom I know because if you weren%26#039;t you would not be asking this question give him a big hug and tell him he can%26#039;t ever get into the water again. (also I like the swim lessons idea being you have water so close to your home)
Reply:Basically, you need to explain it to him.
Most importantly, get him into an infant swim class. I have looked into and will be starting my 7 month old in the classes shortly. Check out infantswim.com to see if any classes are offered near your area.
Reply:In all likelihood he%26#039;s probably forgotten your reaction to what happened. It was wrong, obviously he didn%26#039;t mean to fall into the pond. In the future try and give yourself a few seconds to react to thigns he does do wrong. If you feel like you%26#039;re going to lose it/temper or whatever then sit him in a quiet spot like timeout then when youre calm go to him and get on his level and tell him why what he did was not acceptable.
Reply:Well don%26#039;t beat yourself up too much. All that adrenaline from being scared had to come in to play with the way you handled it.
I would say to make it up to him have some cuddle time and tell him you love him. And to react better, just remain calm and pick him up and make sure he%26#039;s ok and then just tell him to be careful. Don%26#039;t feel too bad. All mommies make mistakes :)
Reply:Get a little fence-- don%26#039;t be so hard on yourself-- sh*t happens!
Reply:Please don%26#039;t beat yourself up over it, but take it as a serious warning. I know someone who turned around for two seconds as well, and her child fell into the backyard pool. Sadly, the baby died in the hospital three days later. Please put a fence around your pond, and make a rule that you need to keep your eyes on your son at all times while he%26#039;s outside.
*EDIT* Swim classes for babies and toddlers are NOT meant to teach water safety! That%26#039;s why the AAP strongly discourages them! They give parents a false sense of security. A baby swim class will NOT protect a young child around water; parental supervision will!
http://aapnews.aappublications.org/cgi/c...
http://www.aap.org/advocacy/releases/jun...
Reply:do not feel bad .It happened to me a few hundred time over the years,,,when children do that it scares us and our first reaction is to get angry. parenting is the hardest and most rewarding job in the world,
Reply:The reason for that reaction was because you were scared at the time, which is understandable. I%26#039;m sure your little boy still loves you and knows you love him. It is sometimes hard to keep a clear head when your child is in danger. Just be consistent with him, keep telling him %26quot;No%26quot; while you show him the pond. Don%26#039;t beat yourself up over this. It was an accident.
Reply:what you need to do is to get a special net for covering ponds. I only realised my little one could open doors when I saw her. One day you will be on the phone or balancing your check book and not realised he has stepped out by himself by opening the door or because it was not closed properly. he could easily drown.
this has been your warning to set things right before tragedy strikes.
Reply:The issue is that he could have drowned, drain the pond.
Reply:You know, I read the question title and thought, oh poor girl. I%26#039;ve completely changed my mind on that. I don%26#039;t think that yelling at him or whooping him was the best idea. He%26#039;s not even 2, and you should not punish him because you weren%26#039;t paying close enough attention. I give my 4 year old whoopings, but not for something I very well could have prevented.
beauty
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Peace lily repotting?
I was given a peace lily in smallish pot (about 12%26#039; diameter), about a year ago. It lives usally in my dorm room and sometimes i admittedly go a while without watering it, i usually wait to see some drooping to water it as to not overwater. The tips do go brownish but thought this may be from the chlorine they put in our water. It has recently just sprouted about 5 flowers, and is very bushy. other than that nothing special, i never fertilize or anything like that.
However i want my plant to get very big so i was thinking about transplanting it to a bigger pot with new soil. Will this cause it to get bigger? Or will it do more harm than good. I was planning to get a very big pot so i dont have to transplant for a few years.
Peace lily repotting?
I have grown many peace lilies. It%26#039;s easy to repot just don%26#039;t get a pot too big, about 2-4 inches bigger. Put new potting soil in leaving about 3 inches in bottom. when you remove plant put the tight roots out a little so they can spread. Yes this will help the plant get bigger.
I hope this helps
Reply:Peace lilies will get as big as the pot they are in. I want mine small, so I keep it in a small pot, my grandmother has a huge one, I would guess the pot is appx 2ft. the lily grew to take up the entire pot.
If you%26#039;re concerned about over watering, get a pot with a reservoir at the bottom and put the water there. When it dries up, add more water.
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However i want my plant to get very big so i was thinking about transplanting it to a bigger pot with new soil. Will this cause it to get bigger? Or will it do more harm than good. I was planning to get a very big pot so i dont have to transplant for a few years.
Peace lily repotting?
I have grown many peace lilies. It%26#039;s easy to repot just don%26#039;t get a pot too big, about 2-4 inches bigger. Put new potting soil in leaving about 3 inches in bottom. when you remove plant put the tight roots out a little so they can spread. Yes this will help the plant get bigger.
I hope this helps
Reply:Peace lilies will get as big as the pot they are in. I want mine small, so I keep it in a small pot, my grandmother has a huge one, I would guess the pot is appx 2ft. the lily grew to take up the entire pot.
If you%26#039;re concerned about over watering, get a pot with a reservoir at the bottom and put the water there. When it dries up, add more water.
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Irises and lily's?
is it safe to transplant iris%26#039;s and lily%26#039;s this time of year?
Irises and lily%26#039;s?
Daylilies can be dug, divided and planted as soon as they come up. Irises can be safely transplanted but may not bloom this year, hopwever if they are not up very far it is probably ok. Normanlly they are transplanted in September. Lily bulbs are available in garden centers for planting in the spring, and if you have a clump that you can fin (they are not up yet) you could dig and transplant them at this time of the year also.
I have transplanted irises at different times of the year, and haven%26#039;t lost one yet. Sometimes it takes a year for them to bloom again, but it doesn%26#039;t hurt them.
Reply:All of these answers seem to be corect in one way or the other,we grow both and transplant when we feel like it.So there.
Reply:Irises should be planted in the fall. We still have snow on the ground where I live, but if it is spring where you live, it would be fine to transplant the lillies. If you are moving go ahead and try to transplant your irises.
Reply:I just transplanted Japanese Irises given to me. I do not expect a bloom this year. We need to divide and transplant in the fall in zone 8b before new growth starts.
Reply:Yes, but it might make them not bloom this year.
Reply:Yes. You can transplant Iris just about anytime. Fall is the best time for lily%26#039;s. You can do it now if the foliage is very short. If it is close to blooming wait till fall.
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Irises and lily%26#039;s?
Daylilies can be dug, divided and planted as soon as they come up. Irises can be safely transplanted but may not bloom this year, hopwever if they are not up very far it is probably ok. Normanlly they are transplanted in September. Lily bulbs are available in garden centers for planting in the spring, and if you have a clump that you can fin (they are not up yet) you could dig and transplant them at this time of the year also.
I have transplanted irises at different times of the year, and haven%26#039;t lost one yet. Sometimes it takes a year for them to bloom again, but it doesn%26#039;t hurt them.
Reply:All of these answers seem to be corect in one way or the other,we grow both and transplant when we feel like it.So there.
Reply:Irises should be planted in the fall. We still have snow on the ground where I live, but if it is spring where you live, it would be fine to transplant the lillies. If you are moving go ahead and try to transplant your irises.
Reply:I just transplanted Japanese Irises given to me. I do not expect a bloom this year. We need to divide and transplant in the fall in zone 8b before new growth starts.
Reply:Yes, but it might make them not bloom this year.
Reply:Yes. You can transplant Iris just about anytime. Fall is the best time for lily%26#039;s. You can do it now if the foliage is very short. If it is close to blooming wait till fall.
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I have an indoor peace lily,about six years old.Plant is thriving but there are insects in the soil.?
They are tiny,white,look like a cross between an ant and a caterpillar,about 2-3 mm long,but there are lots of them.Seem to jump a bit.None on the plant itself.
I have an indoor peace lily,about six years old.Plant is thriving but there are insects in the soil.?
Take the plant outside and empty it out of the pot - get rid of the soil (and the bugs) and gently hose off all soil from the roots making sure that you get every bug off and any fluffy debris they create in the leaf axles. Wash your pot in hot soapy water and rinse and dry. Re-pot the Lily in fresh bagged compost (mixed with a third of sand or grit if you have it) and it should continue it%26#039;s long and happy life bug-free. Good luck :-)
Reply:Kill the insects and let the plant live for now.
Reply:My support to you would be.
Cleard the insects out to save d your lilys,or get new soil and cleard the pot.
Reply:If your plant is doing that well, it would be risky to relocate it to a new pot now. I do that if it looks troubled. You can put Sevin Dust in the pot and bring no harm to the plant but kill any bugs in the pot. It%26#039;s a light powder sprinkle, and won%26#039;t hurt people or pets if used in the way I%26#039;m telling you about.
Reply:You may not see them on the plant but they%26#039;re having a feastday underground on the soil and roots of your plant. I mix a little dish detergent with water and use this when I water. It seems to kill off the larva and wash the eggs down the drain. Your local garden centre will also have insecticides that you can use.
Good Growing!!!
The Muse
Reply:re pot it, you should do this every 2 to 3 years any how.
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I have an indoor peace lily,about six years old.Plant is thriving but there are insects in the soil.?
Take the plant outside and empty it out of the pot - get rid of the soil (and the bugs) and gently hose off all soil from the roots making sure that you get every bug off and any fluffy debris they create in the leaf axles. Wash your pot in hot soapy water and rinse and dry. Re-pot the Lily in fresh bagged compost (mixed with a third of sand or grit if you have it) and it should continue it%26#039;s long and happy life bug-free. Good luck :-)
Reply:Kill the insects and let the plant live for now.
Reply:My support to you would be.
Cleard the insects out to save d your lilys,or get new soil and cleard the pot.
Reply:If your plant is doing that well, it would be risky to relocate it to a new pot now. I do that if it looks troubled. You can put Sevin Dust in the pot and bring no harm to the plant but kill any bugs in the pot. It%26#039;s a light powder sprinkle, and won%26#039;t hurt people or pets if used in the way I%26#039;m telling you about.
Reply:You may not see them on the plant but they%26#039;re having a feastday underground on the soil and roots of your plant. I mix a little dish detergent with water and use this when I water. It seems to kill off the larva and wash the eggs down the drain. Your local garden centre will also have insecticides that you can use.
Good Growing!!!
The Muse
Reply:re pot it, you should do this every 2 to 3 years any how.
dental
ATWT History-Lily, Carly, Emily?
I have only watched ATWT for a few years. I thought that Lily, Carly and Emily were friends. However, when each of them has gone through tough times, the others aren%26#039;t there to help out. Can someone please give me a history lesson of those 3 ladies?
ATWT History-Lily, Carly, Emily?
best go to soapcentral.com they have good character bios and family trees for the soaps
http://www.soapcentral.com/atwt/whoswho/...
Reply:Ladymert had good advice. Go to soapcentral for in depth info. There is a lot of history between these three ladies.
Reply:If I%26#039;m remembering right, the three of them were kidnapped together at one time... am vaguely remembering them trapped in white bathrobes in some kind of fake day spa. Not sure how long ago this was- either right before, during, or right after the %26quot;Rose%26quot; storyline...
At that time, the three of them really bonded and did form a friendship. Carly and Lily have always been sorta close because they were married to cousins (Jack and Holden.)
But for a while anyway (before the whole Dusty drama) Emily was friends with them too...
Reply:Are you talking about the spa? I thought that was Rose, not Lily. Maybe I am misremembering though.
-S
Reply:I cant answer this fully, but will do the best I can. At the moment Lily is angry with Emily and the late Dusty Donivan because she and Dusty were starting to get together (had been intimate), however Dusty still had feelings for Emily and they ended up being intimate as well.
Lilly and Carly(to the best of my knowledge) appear to get along. I%26#039;ve seen episodes where they confide in each other. Lily was the one that persuaded Carli to tell Jack the truth about her %26quot;illness%26quot; and that she had been misdiagnosed. If these 2 ever had a disagreement over a man or anything else, I%26#039;m not aware of it. The same goes for Emily and Carly, I%26#039;m sure there has been problems, but I%26#039;m not aware of it.
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ATWT History-Lily, Carly, Emily?
best go to soapcentral.com they have good character bios and family trees for the soaps
http://www.soapcentral.com/atwt/whoswho/...
Reply:Ladymert had good advice. Go to soapcentral for in depth info. There is a lot of history between these three ladies.
Reply:If I%26#039;m remembering right, the three of them were kidnapped together at one time... am vaguely remembering them trapped in white bathrobes in some kind of fake day spa. Not sure how long ago this was- either right before, during, or right after the %26quot;Rose%26quot; storyline...
At that time, the three of them really bonded and did form a friendship. Carly and Lily have always been sorta close because they were married to cousins (Jack and Holden.)
But for a while anyway (before the whole Dusty drama) Emily was friends with them too...
Reply:Are you talking about the spa? I thought that was Rose, not Lily. Maybe I am misremembering though.
-S
Reply:I cant answer this fully, but will do the best I can. At the moment Lily is angry with Emily and the late Dusty Donivan because she and Dusty were starting to get together (had been intimate), however Dusty still had feelings for Emily and they ended up being intimate as well.
Lilly and Carly(to the best of my knowledge) appear to get along. I%26#039;ve seen episodes where they confide in each other. Lily was the one that persuaded Carli to tell Jack the truth about her %26quot;illness%26quot; and that she had been misdiagnosed. If these 2 ever had a disagreement over a man or anything else, I%26#039;m not aware of it. The same goes for Emily and Carly, I%26#039;m sure there has been problems, but I%26#039;m not aware of it.
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Are Calla Lily flowers locally available in the Philippines?
I%26#039;m getting married in the Philippines next year of February and Calla Lily is my flower theme. Is that flower locally available? Does any of you has an idea of the price as well? Thank you!
Are Calla Lily flowers locally available in the Philippines?
Yes, the Philippines has locally grown Calla Lily. Check with a local florist and get references. Filipinos (and this is a cultural thing) will always answer yes. It%26#039;s just good customer service to say %26quot;yes.%26quot; Like, can you get those for me? Yes. Are you going to have a problem getting those for me? Yes. You will want to make sure the yes you get really means %26quot;yes%26quot;.
Reply:If you are in Manila, then go to Dangwa which is where most flowershops buy their goods! I see all kinds of flowers there and it is open 24 hours! Most people go there after midnight!
If you are in Northern Luzon, they your option would be to buy it in Baguio!
If you are in Southern Luzon, aside from Dangwa, then your option will be Silang, Cavite or Tagaytay!
Reply:ya of course...
Reply:i think 100 per dozen in bukidnon
Reply:i think so i don%26#039;t actually know cause i have never seen Calla Lily flowers since i%26#039;ve been to the Philippines. cause i%26#039;m a filipino.
Reply:yes. and it was one of the cheapest and most expensive flower in the philippines. But if you prefer those with long stem, that will cost you a lot cost most of long stemed calla lily was imported from other country, but if you prefer those short stem, it is cheaper than rose.
Soles
Are Calla Lily flowers locally available in the Philippines?
Yes, the Philippines has locally grown Calla Lily. Check with a local florist and get references. Filipinos (and this is a cultural thing) will always answer yes. It%26#039;s just good customer service to say %26quot;yes.%26quot; Like, can you get those for me? Yes. Are you going to have a problem getting those for me? Yes. You will want to make sure the yes you get really means %26quot;yes%26quot;.
Reply:If you are in Manila, then go to Dangwa which is where most flowershops buy their goods! I see all kinds of flowers there and it is open 24 hours! Most people go there after midnight!
If you are in Northern Luzon, they your option would be to buy it in Baguio!
If you are in Southern Luzon, aside from Dangwa, then your option will be Silang, Cavite or Tagaytay!
Reply:ya of course...
Reply:i think 100 per dozen in bukidnon
Reply:i think so i don%26#039;t actually know cause i have never seen Calla Lily flowers since i%26#039;ve been to the Philippines. cause i%26#039;m a filipino.
Reply:yes. and it was one of the cheapest and most expensive flower in the philippines. But if you prefer those with long stem, that will cost you a lot cost most of long stemed calla lily was imported from other country, but if you prefer those short stem, it is cheaper than rose.
Soles
Hollyhock bulbs or tubers? Will they bloom this year?
Hi new to bulbs. I just bought some Hollyhock bulbs or tubers from Costco (haven%26#039;t opened yet, didn%26#039;t know hollyhocks were sold this way in a package?) I live in zone 8- Texas, will they bloom this year?
Also, I bought gladiolus and lily bulbs too. Altogether I have close to 120 bulbs planted. Is this enough for an average suburban lot? I have them planted in the front and the backyard. Do I need to buy more or is this a good amount of flowers? What%26#039;s the success ratio for bulbs?
Thanks
Hollyhock bulbs or tubers? Will they bloom this year?
I saw that - hollyhock bulbs - and it surprised me too.
The only thing I can figure is that they are bareroot plants in the package. I%26#039;d be interested to know, if you find out anything more on them!
Go on and get them planted. You live in zone 8, so you are well begun on your spring season. I%26#039;m in zone 8b (just north of Houston). I planted seeds. They%26#039;re just barely pushing up from the soil, and I%26#039;m so excited!
On Bulbs: Success ratio has a lot to do with how healthy the bulbs are (I usually get an 80% success because some bulbs are just not viable), how healthy and supportive your soil is (have you amended it with some good compost?), and so many other factors such as sun availability, water, mulch, etc.
Gardening with bulbs is a trial and error thing. You will know more next year what to plant, when and where just by how it grows this year.
You should get a good display and plenty of flowers from 120 bulbs...do you have plenty of vases on hand?
Happy Gardening!
Reply:hollyhawks probably wont bloom the first year from bulbs however if you can purchase them at a local garden shop that is allready growing in pots they will bloom this year since they were started last year , and yes you have plenty bulbs for your yard , they will mutiply each year and you eventually will have too thin them out good luck with your gharden I love all kinds of beautiful flowers , have my small yard full of them ,
Reply:I%26#039;ve never seen hollyhocks in the form you indicate. I%26#039;ve known them to be started from seed. The plants bloom the second year. They are biennials and once started, they continue by self-seeding. Good luck.
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Also, I bought gladiolus and lily bulbs too. Altogether I have close to 120 bulbs planted. Is this enough for an average suburban lot? I have them planted in the front and the backyard. Do I need to buy more or is this a good amount of flowers? What%26#039;s the success ratio for bulbs?
Thanks
Hollyhock bulbs or tubers? Will they bloom this year?
I saw that - hollyhock bulbs - and it surprised me too.
The only thing I can figure is that they are bareroot plants in the package. I%26#039;d be interested to know, if you find out anything more on them!
Go on and get them planted. You live in zone 8, so you are well begun on your spring season. I%26#039;m in zone 8b (just north of Houston). I planted seeds. They%26#039;re just barely pushing up from the soil, and I%26#039;m so excited!
On Bulbs: Success ratio has a lot to do with how healthy the bulbs are (I usually get an 80% success because some bulbs are just not viable), how healthy and supportive your soil is (have you amended it with some good compost?), and so many other factors such as sun availability, water, mulch, etc.
Gardening with bulbs is a trial and error thing. You will know more next year what to plant, when and where just by how it grows this year.
You should get a good display and plenty of flowers from 120 bulbs...do you have plenty of vases on hand?
Happy Gardening!
Reply:hollyhawks probably wont bloom the first year from bulbs however if you can purchase them at a local garden shop that is allready growing in pots they will bloom this year since they were started last year , and yes you have plenty bulbs for your yard , they will mutiply each year and you eventually will have too thin them out good luck with your gharden I love all kinds of beautiful flowers , have my small yard full of them ,
Reply:I%26#039;ve never seen hollyhocks in the form you indicate. I%26#039;ve known them to be started from seed. The plants bloom the second year. They are biennials and once started, they continue by self-seeding. Good luck.
acne scar
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